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Dear Keith and Maura,

Do you think it means anything if a guy you like at work happens to give you his cell phone number out of the blue, or if you ask that guy – joking around – if he can give you a ride home from work and he has a big grin on his face?

I work at a grocery store near my home. Can people even date their co-workers or become serious with them? Is it appropriate or crazy to do? After all it is WORK.

– Wondering Worker


Dear Wondering Worker,

These are great questions, and we’… Continue

We’ve been dealing with the word “commitment” a lot lately in our coaching practice. Some of our clients avoid it like the plague, while others jump in head first, without stopping to consider the possible consequences. Which approach do we recommend?

Neither.

Commitment is not something to be taken lightly, but at the same time, avoiding it will likely doom you to a life of mediocrity and unfulfilled dreams. When we first met each other, each of us was having a great time being single. After… Continue

Have you ever felt unappreciated because someone didn’t notice something special you did? Or – even worse – your kind gesture backfires, and not only do they not appreciate it – they are actually mad at you! This comes up frequently with our coaching clients, and we experience it with each other as well. One of us will do something we feel really good about, and then the other one will walk right by it a million times, and not even realize it’s there. We could point it out, but we really don’t w… Continue

“I would feel just awful if I left anybody out.”

“You really hurt my feelings when you said that.”

“When I find my soul mate, I will feel so happy.”

One of the most important things we teach about relationships is self-responsibility. Like many people, we spent most of our lives looking outside of ourselves for approval, blame, and fulfillment. And like most people who live that way, we rarely got what we wanted, and even when we did, we were never truly satisfied.

We used to think of respon… Continue

“That’s the story of my life.”

“It’s the same old story.”

“That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it.”

Have you ever heard yourself using any of these expressions? Is your story about the life you want, or is it a story you feel like you’re stuck with?

Before we met each other, each of us had spent most of our lives in what we now call victim mode. We felt like we had little control over the things that happened to us, so we spent a lot of time complaining. The complaining didn’t really help o… Continue